In any relationship there is a core expectation which needs to be satisfied and guarded. This gives rise to fear. You can never satisfy any relationship totally. Anyone who has tries to please their whole family will only become a dropout. Understand, fear is always imprisoning while love is always liberating. Unless society instills fear into you, you will not listen to it. So it instills fear in you through all possible means through insecurity, rules, regulations, worship etc.
Fear is what takes the form of jealousy also in relationships. Fear is the basis for most of our actions and emotions. Jealousy, anger, greed these emotions are all rooted in fear. We are not aware of this. We don’t know that fear is the causative factor for all these. That is the problem. That is why we continue to be in the dark as far as our behavior patterns are concerned. That is why relationships turn out to be difficult.
Understand that fear and love can never co-exist. If there is pure love in a relationship there can never be fear. If there is fear there can never be pure love. There is some vested interest in the relationship. There is some purpose, objective, expectation of security, greed or returns in the relationship. That is why fear sets in. We look for security in every relationship. We need some security to settle down comfortably. This is actually a kind of imprisonment that we enjoy. People talk of freedom but I tell you they are so afraid of it! They like only imprisonment. In the comfortable cushioning effect of imprisonment, they think they are free. You will never feel utterly insecure in your other relationships because there is always some push and pull of greed, fear and anger that keeps you well settled in the familiar patterns of relationships. But with a master, you are totally free. So you become afraid.
A master will never offer you the security you are looking for. He will never offer you the patterns you are looking for. When you don’t get the security you are looking for you will grow with deep centering within yourself. You will grow fearlessly because you know there is nothing to lose. When you know there is nothing to lose you have no fear. To show you that there is nothing to lose the master throws you upon utter insecurity. Out of his deep compassion for you, out of deep concern for your growth he doesn’t offer you security. When you don’t find the mundane security you will find God. Just one encounter with near death can show you that there is nothing to lose and that all your fears are baseless. The master simply makes you understand this in his own way.
So don’t try to escape from the master. Understand that he is here only to show you what you actually are. Your inherent nature is fearlessness. Over years you have been instilled with fear. The master tries to break the layers of conditioning that you have taken upon yourself. If you just allow him to work upon you with trust and love, you will see yourself transform in front of your own eyes!
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